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Post by ladyjay on Jan 5, 2008 5:32:27 GMT -5
This is a very simple question but it requires alot of hard thinking. Are you happy? Truly happy with everything around you. Are you content with what your life has become/ Are you satisfied with yourself?
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Post by starr on Feb 3, 2008 11:10:22 GMT -5
I used to think alot about what needed to be changed in my life because I was not happy. I have worked very hard to make those changes, and I can honestly say, that I am happy with my life today. Of course, there are still changes that will arise from time to time, but I'm still happy. I am a gemini, so changing makes me happy too.
An extra thought on happiness. I have learned that how we feel inside is largely what makes us happy and unhappy. I had to work alot on readjusting my thoughts and my responses to situations to become really happy. I had to learn to stop letting the actions of others control how I feel about situations. Now, if something comes up that would have made me feel unhappy and stressed out, I say this to myself. "This person is responsible for whatever the outcome of there decision is, I will not let this outcome affect me, but I will be there for them regardless of the outcome as a friend, but not as a person responsible to fix anything negative." And I let it go.
I also learned to adjust quickly to changes that were created by others and did affect me. Here's an example, I have been seeing the same person for several years, one day he says " I don't want to be together anymore, I don't want a girlfriend." Well, obviously, that wasn't what I wanted to hear at that time. And the old me would have been feeling depressed, sad, not letting go. I thought about it, and I said to myself, I am not responsible to make him value his relationship with me and it disappoints me that he isn't valueing it right now. Maybe it is time for me to open the door to someone who does. So, instead of fighting with him and saying "You can't do this" I said ok, if that's what you want. Immeadiately, it seems like, I met a ton of new, great guys, who I have become good friends with. Before it got much further than that, my boyfriend started calling me all the time and asking me to go out with him. I have seen him more and talked more with him since that happened than before that. I think it is because I changed from the reaction he expected. I honestly think the fact that I didn't fall apart, I didn't cling, and I didn't even argue with him blew him away. Than he saw that I just got busy on another path, and he gained appreciation for me and our relationship. If anything should make someone unhappy, it should be that situation, but it didn't. I have created my life in a way that things are balanced so when something does not go the way I want, I may get temporarily disappointed, but I still have a great life that I love.
BB,
Starr
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Post by raiyu1188 on Jun 14, 2012 20:47:42 GMT -5
i was really happy when i finally met the man of my life. love had given me a great happiness in life. but soon things started to change when i found out that he's actually had a wife but she had left him alone for 5 years, and he's still in the process of divorcing her. I thought that, well it's okay then. but recently, she came back. and she wanted him and refuse to get divorce. i don't know what will happend to me and my son if my husband can't divorce her. so if your asking if i'm happy right now. the answer is NO.
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